INTJ Thoughts

 A few weeks ago I had a performance review for my corporate job. My boss said the main thing I should “work on” is… my quietness. “You’re SO quiet! Try to join in more on office conversations!” Ever since then, she brings it up regularly. Every 1:1 meeting or chat. There’s always a little reminder that I’m too quiet. I just want to do my job, get paid, and save my social battery for my life outside work, with my friends and my partner. I have work friends that I’ll grab coffee or eat lunch with. I’ll give my 2cents in meetings. But during working hours, I just want to lock in with some music, audiobooks, or podcasts. I don’t want to stand over my cubicle and give my hot take on the World Series. It bothers me that being quiet is framed as a weakness instead of a personality trait. I do my work well. Isn’t that enough? Anyone else get tired of being told to “speak up” just for the sake of making noise? -  claydaybyday I think they are inferring weak communication skills. This ...

I (INFJ) have a long-standing crush on an INTJ I met through alumni/scholarship events. Timeline in short: *Followed each other on social media, he occasionally liked my posts, rarely viewed my stories. *First event (Feb): we barely interacted but he hugged me as a greeting — felt significant. Didn't even get to introduce ourselves properly, I just knew of him through mutual friends. That night, he added me on LinkedIn (within an hour after the event). *Second event (Nov): same space, tried to make eye contact and smile, but he didn’t acknowledge me. Minimal interaction. I got busy because it was a networking event, but I really wanted to converse with him to see if we could connect. *Social media: mostly active on LinkedIn, reactivated IG recently but no meaningful engagement. I know INTJs are deliberate and cautious, but I’m confused — is he interested or am I reading too much into subtle cues? - tiredgeneral From a pragmatic standpoint, I'd say you're underthinking by d...