Response to an egotistical INTJ

 Most of us (INTJs) have spent our entire lives honing our skills of people watching. We mentally document everything there is to document about a person. We study you. We can’t help it. It is just who we are. We watch how you do things, how you interact with others, how you speak, how you dress, how you carry yourself, how you respond to certain situations and scenarios all the while, documenting your facial expressions, micro expressions, mannerisms, habits, quirks, you name it. If any of these items are out of whack, not inline with our own morals and codes, we write you off immediately or set up boundaries that keep the toxicity at bay.

Traits like these are why it is nearly impossible to lie to an INTJ. Between our ridiculously on-point intuition and our way of noticing when even the smallest of details have changed or are “off”, we can usually pin point exactly what type of questions to start asking. This is the real reason we do not have a ton of friends or even care to have a ton of friends. It's too time consuming to do this with people and most people’s actions don’t match their words anyway. It’s sad to say, but most people are fake to some extent and we’re pros at picking up on that behavior and not wasting our time with you.

So if you do get the chance to meet an INTJ in the wild and manage to grab its attention, please just remember to be your true, authentic self. Let us see the real you and you will probably manage to gain a friend for life. There is NO NEED to try and be someone you are not. Remember, we are memorizing everything there is to memorize about you and we can’t help it. If you are being fake in any way, you won’t be able to keep up the charade forever and the second your guard drops, we notice the inconsistency, and it’s game over. - clairsentientbeing

Being authentic and sincere should apply to people in general.

If any of these items are out of whack, not inline with our own morals and codes, we write you off immediately..

This may have been true for me in my teens/early twenties, but now I'm not so critical since I realize I'm far from perfect myself. Holding on to such a negative cynical world view will only make you grumpy, lonely, and unfun to be around.

The amount of friends an INTJ wants to hold is entirely up to them, but don't rationalize it into the failure of others. As INTJs we need to work on being more adaptive/flexible in thinking and try to embrace and understand the differences in others, rather than ostracize them for it. Realize their strengths and weaknesses may not fall in line exactly with ours.

INTJs need to work on not viewing themselves as better and only expecting others to change while being entirely unapologetic to their own weaknesses and unwillingness to change. This is not the way.