Most people are boring as fuck to talk to (especially Gen Z/ Gen A)

 I'm an INTJ who has lived in a variety of places and done a wide variety of things. I have heard that I'm easy to talk to.

As for other people, I find 90%+ of them incredibly boring. A few things that I've noticed:

  1. Many people are comfortable staying at the surface level FOREVER. I have some coworkers who I have known for years who can still spend an entire lunch talking about what they're eating and the weather.

  2. Most people simply don't have anything interesting to talk about, or are afraid to share it.

  3. People aren't comfortable sharing their true opinions on things (especially if they're controversial). This is especially true for Gen Z/ Gen A, who are more concerned about their image.

  4. Those who do have opinions on things often recycled their opinions from someone else. Parroted political opinions, etc. It's extremely rare that I meet someone who has a unique point of view on something. Maybe once or twice a year.

  5. People often reflexively shy away from real topics. Many people can't hold focus on deeper topics and get distracted very easily.

  6. People can become much more social when assisted with alcohol or drugs, but can also become dumber because of it.

I think that this has been largely exaggerated by the internet, social media, and the pandemic. People seem to have forgotten how to socialize (or in the case of Gen Z/ Gen A, never learned). I notice a massive difference from when I talk with people who are 40+ in the world today. Even those who aren't particularly smart are way more interesting to talk to. I've found that I will rarely run into a person with unique points of view. Perhaps once or twice a year.

Wondering if others have experienced the same. - Ok-Cartographer-5544


People this... people that... Maybe you're boring and/or lack charisma so people don't care to open up and engage with you?


Of course people who are older will have more things to say, they've lived longer and experienced more. What an astute observation. Remove yourself from the imaginary throne you've placed upon yourself as ultimate arbiter of what is interesting and who is smart. This whole attitude of "people" must meet my idea of what "people" should be, just reeks of ego. Receive humility and maybe you will find most people are more interesting than not.

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