What makes me so unlikable?

 I ask myself this question a lot as i always seem to be the person left out.

Whether it be “friends” or people I work with, i’m never included in anything and i have a hard time seeing any value in myself. i’m forgotten by my own family too.

sSmetimes i think my inability to speak up or bring attention to myself is a reason, but that’s just because no one has ever taken me seriously when i have before. it’s like my voice won’t even come through if i try. and i hate having everyone’s eyes on me, it’s like i turn into this awkward tomato mess.

Just feeling lonely rn. - Aromatic-Hippo9624


It might not be that you're unlikable so much as voluntarily invisible. Heavy introverts seem to always find themselves in these sorts of severely rationalized false dichotomies. I've been there, had friends who have been, and have friends who are there now.


It's not about being "attention-seeking" or wearing a mask (whatever introverted trope you want), it's about having the ability to properly (and someday, charismatically) communicate yourself and your feelings to others. There also appears to be some insecurity and confidence issues that are getting in your way.


So maybe the first step, is to shift our perception on the matter. You're not "unlikable", people have an unclear perception of you and/or don't know enough of your personality to make that judgement.

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